The comparison trap - how to keep a healthy outlook as you work towards your goals.

The comparison trap. One of the easiest traps to fall in to, especially in the beauty industry.
We could sit here and blame all the advertisements for the many differing beauty treatments available to us, or spanx, or lipo, or [insert any kind of body / face altering products and services available to us] BUT - is it really them?
Let’s be honest with ourselves. We see another woman who we deem as better than us in any 1 (or several) way(s) and we immediately assume that for whatever reason - it’s “easier for her”.
She must not have kids. She must be younger. She has a supportive spouse. She has more money. She only has 1 job instead of several. She only has 1 kid instead of 4. She doesn’t have any extra commitments on her schedule. The list goes on and on.
Is that true though? Really, we have absolutely no idea. Even if we are telling ourselves these things about someone fairly close to us that we think we know pretty well - we STILL don’t really know what goes on behind closed doors. We don’t know what demons she fights or what she had to do to get to where she is.
The hard truth that we just can’t seem to tell ourselves - it’s not them, it’s us. We are in complete control of our actions and what we spend our time on. We will spend our time on whatever we deem to be TRULY important. Nothing more. Nothing less.
OR we will distract ourselves by adding endless “crud” to our plate that isn’t really serving us in any way to keep ourselves from facing the things that we really SHOULD be spending our time on.
I know. This hits hard and is probably a little difficult to swallow. Anything uncomfortable is. It’s incredibly easy to stay comfortable - where we know we are “safe”. It’s HELLA hard to get uncomfortable and out of our shell.
Listen, I have done all of these things and I am certain I will again at some point. It’s human nature. I don’t say these things to hurt or shame you. I say them to challenge your thinking patterns and encourage you that you’re not alone.
So what do we do? How do we change our mindset and start working towards our goals that we so desperately want to achieve?
You just start. One step at a time. I promise i’m not over simplifying here, hear me out. Give yourself permission to be messy about it. It doesn’t have to be perfect - in fact, it almost never will be. Accept that and then begin. Tackle one small thing at a time.
The problem is you are too in your head. You have convinced yourself that you situation, whatever it is, has to be absolutely PERFECT in order to get off the ground. Every star needs to align, birds need to be singing, not a single “hitch” can be present.
That’s. Never. Going. To. Happen. Ever.
Control the controllable. The literal only thing you have complete and total control of ever is yourself = your emotions and your actions. YOU CAN set yourself up for success, you’re just afraid to fail.

​That’s completely valid. We are ALL afraid of failure. But - what if this time, you don’t fail? What if those goals you’ve been dreaming of for weeks/months/years/decades is FINALLY within your reach? What if you just need some support an encouragement along the way? What if you just need someone that’s walked this journey themselves and wants to see you win just as badly as you yourself want it?
If you want someone to walk with you side by side in your journey, email me at [email protected] I know where you’ve been. I know where you’re at now. And I know where you can go. I’ve got you.